One of the cool things about my business is that I often get calls like the one I got today. A guy called me and right away told me “I have never called a phone sex service before, and I stumbled on your site by accident. But I’m intrigued”.
I said… “So you are calling to see if I am real and for me to sell ya on talking to me then… right”?
I get calls like this all the time. I gave him my “sales pitch” which is really a simple explanation of how things work. I do it with the facts, but trust me my charm is there too. I hate to be cocky… (really I don’t) but I am charming as hell and I know it.
So we proceeded to set up his call. He was a little nervous giving me all his billing info but as I usually do… I explained why I needed it, and how it would be handled etc. You know how much I hate to be cocky…. but I am pretty professionally minded and well spoken too.
Once his account was set up and we proceeded to do our call we talked at length about why he decided to call. See, I’ve done this long enough to spot a fib, so I can usually tell if someone has had phone sex with a service or not. I’ve had guys call and tell me that simply because I guess they believe they will get a certain kind of treatment or whatever. When that happens, I can usually tell that too. This guy was legit, and I had no reason to doubt him.
I love to get feedback from my callers, and especially from the newbies that have never paid for it before. Of course free is always good … because it’s FREE. But when you pay for it… the girl usually isn’t shy, reserved, or afraid to get down and dirty. It’s a lot less work smooth talking on your part too.
Let’s face it… if you call a service you should know you are going to pay for it, and yeah this IS a business first and foremost to everyone involved. I remember a while back working with a girl who totally got pissed off because I called the guys I talked to “customers”. Her opinion was that it was a reminder to them that they were paying for it. Well no shit Sherlock. This is completely the reason I don’t get a long with most females… they get all touchy feelie and I’m just not. That kind of attitude falls in line with stereotypical thinking that all guys who call phone sex are freaks, losers, and weirdos IMO. That just ain’t true either. Of course you know you are paying when you call a frickin’ business. Duh! There is nothing really wrong with paying for something you want and having it done right.
I think my site is unique in several ways, I try to make all of the business stuff clear and concise with a no bullshit attitude. It’s all up front baby and has no tricks to it! I get feedback all the time from my callers and I take it very seriously. My business is strategic, but I’ve also always tried to do things my own way… such as offering cheap rates to guys without considering them to be “cheapsakes” for it. I also try damn hard to break the stereotypes of women who work in the phone sex industry. I happen to be educated, intelligent, business oriented, and not doing it out of “desperation”.
These were all things the guy who called me today pointed out as things that peaked his curiosity enough to call me. He was not a freak, a weirdo, or a cheapsake… he was a lawyer. He was super nice, had a great personality, and continued to extend his time. The phone sex part was pretty hot too! He may or may not call me ever again… I have no idea. But the one thing I know is that I pulled him in to a naughty world, even for just a little while. And my hope for him is that he had fun, and that if he calls again he knows what quality in phone sex as a business is now. If he does, then I have done my job 100% correctly.
Phone sex has always been natural to me. That may sound strange if you don’t know me… but it’s a true statement. Phone sex came into my life at a pretty early age and has never gone away. I have callers that I have known for years, and for whatever reason they always come back to me.
Sometimes a guy runs across my site and I peak his curiosity enough to email me personally. It’s like they write to find out that I am a real person. Or other times they are trying to make a decision on whether or not to call me. Actually I appreciate that. To me, those are guys who want to spend their time and cash wisely. The fact is that not every girl like myself can be “EVERYTHING” to every caller.
Everyone has had the experience of seeing a “bad” doctor, or a “bad” lawyer, or a “bad” whatever. Usually the truth isn’t that the service isn’t “bad”… usually it’s a lack of connection with that particular person. For instance, we consider a doctor bad because they don’t communicate well with us or they don’t listen closely to us.
The same is true in phone sex. A few main things that make a girl good verses bad is how she communicates. If she doesn’t listen closely to you then she isn’t going to understand you. If she doesn’t understand you then there is no way to relate to you. If she can’t relate well to you then she sure isn’t able to communicate with you well either. This matter alone can literally RUIN a fantasy. Is that what you want to call for?
As a phone sex caller you should want to connect with the girl you call. Maybe you’ll only ever call her one time, and even so… you still want it to work. It’s your money for some hot sexual entertainment… so you want to spend it and be happy with what you got out of it. And so you should!
Wanna make a connection with me? Easy….. you can read my phone sex diary, you can read my bio, you can send me an email and of course…. You can call me.
Does being a phone sex lover contribute to good karma? I think it does. I have just always viewed phone sex as two things: #1 a FUN and an easy going experience and #2 about helping people.
Ok does that sound all egotistical to say that I HELP people? It might, but that is what I fucking believe, ok? LOL. I really do.
My life has changed a lot over the years since I embarked into my phone sex career…I’ve completed my education, I’ve grown as a person… blah blah. But I’ve never walked away from it, because ultimately I have always believed that what I do has VALUE in the world. I also value the people I talk with.
It’s a lofty responsibility to get soooo intimate with people (when it’s done right), to discuss deeply personal experiences or desires… and to still enjoy it all the time. Masturbation in and of itself is a taboo; it’s not something we often discuss with our friends or relatives. It makes things fun for me, I love to intellectualize it.. and DO IT.
I’ve been lucky… callers share things with me whether it’s glimpses into their personal lives, or just their dirty fantasies. I consider myself fortunate to hear those “secrets”, and to get to talk to so many different people. It’s made me smarter beyond my years. I’ve never been one to expect or ask for tips and gifts… it’s just too tacky for me. Instead I just enjoy the time I spend on the telephone with each guy I talk to.
For the caller… being able to express your sexuality freely to a woman can be liberating… and definitely pretty naughty! I feel that I get to HELP people by providing this environment for them. It can be even better to talk to someone who has a genuine interest in you beyond just moaning in your ear too. I do not understand why more people aren’t able to openly discuss sex or masturbation, I guess I have become so open minded that I can’t understand an unwillingness to listen to someone else’s fantasies.
Sure, what I do for a living isn’t brain surgery, but I am answering my own calling… of the slutty variety. I just think and feel I am creating a positive karmic effect by making men happy. I have often wondered if there is a “horny bitch” heaven… and if so…. then I should have one big ass harp waiting for me there!
So on my local area news tonight was a little phone sex story. I literally laughed, but I swear they are also so silly. Local new shows are always aimed at the emotional response instead of the intelligent one.
You know an important package might be delivered to your house when you aren’t home and the mail carrier leaves you a little card telling you so? Usually they have a telephone number on it that you are supposed to call and make new arrangements to get your package. Well… in my local area there was a typo made to the telephone number on several thousand of those post cards. When you called it… you get a phone sex line… not the Post Office.
Then on the news they interviewed a woman who said… “what if a child or a grandmother called it?”
First of all… do you ever notice that the news always interviews the dumbest people? I started cracking up as soon as I knew this was venturing down that area. I think if a grandmother called, she’d know it was phone sex… and furthermore she became a Grandmother because she was obviously fucking at least a few times in her life. It might freak her out for a minute, she’d hang up, and so on… but I doubt it would kill her.
As for the other comment… why would you have your 7 year old call the Post Office?
We’re not all this dumb are we? I so enjoyed the news tidbit that I had to post about it. Not everyday I get to listen to my local new casters say “phone sex” repeatedly LOL. The whole thing had me roaring with laughter! I just keep imagining the embarrassment at the Post Office hehe.
Voice and Speech My voice sounds like whiskey honey… it will warm you from the inside out. My pattern of speech is slow and deliberate, seductive and sultry. My voice has been compared to velvet and it will capture your attention right away.
My Personality
I’m going to charm the pants right off of you. Some guys say I am the Princess of Seduction. Some guys say I am a hot little minx.
I masturbate; therefore I am. I touch myself, because I can. If you sound sexy, if you are sweet to me, then I will want to cum with you.
I’m always told I am the girl next door. But there is so much more to me than that. My mind and speech are slow and gradual. Before you know it - you will be lost in my wicked web of lust. My feminine hiss will run through your mind… days later, even when you try to block it out. A phone sex call with me is not some High School play or performance. It’s an indulgence in adult delights.
I promise you I know how to be feminine. I will bring out your natural male urges, so intensely that you will feel my softness beside you. I’m down to earth and I always share myself with you. I’m business minded, intelligent, open, and our phone call together will be extremely intimate.
Let’s try to be more meaningful than: “uh so what do you like” when we talk. Let’s probe our minds deeply. Let’s share some real experiences we’ve had in a blatantly honest environment. Our phone call will be exactly as WE MAKE IT to be. So let’s make it personal and real.
Ever wonder how many times in one day that I cum? Call me and I will tell you!
Hey! For something different I thought I might post some things you may not have known about me. Ok so this is boring mundane crap… but also just who I am! Yes, I am really boring and mundane in my regular life sometimes. I don’t live the life of a sex goddess damn it. I have to make some changes I guess
I am a huge Howard Stern fan, I listen everyday and am a superfan.
I’m an animal lover, I volunteer my time and money to donate to shelters.
I am a purse addict. I buy a new purse for every season, and they are all black.
I am a Star Wars geek, and I beat everyone at any Trivia game on it.
I love odd and unusual collectibles, and I have many weird collections.
I am not squeamish, and I like scary movies.
My favorite place to be is the beach.
I love pizza and beer.
I drive an SUV and I like to drive too fast.
I do yoga daily both in the morning and at night.
My favorite season is Autumn.
My favorite holiday is Halloween and I love to dress up for it.
I like Guy Movies better then Chick Flicks.
I hate it when a guy sends me flowers.
I would make a crappy housewife because I hate to clean.
My favorite meal of the day is breakfast.
I love Italian Food and my favorite is Gnocci.
My perfect date is … dinner, movie, drinks, and sex. In that order.
I am attracted to a man’s hands.
I have an extensive education and a vast amount of common sense.
It’s difficult for anyone to lie to me without me catching them.
I have a cynical side and my trust is earned.
I have a warped and twisted sense of humor.
I find humor in many inappropriate things and laugh at things that make others cringe.
I am witty and sarcastic but always in a fun way.
I often say what I think bluntly, and some people do not appreciate it.
I have a very deep fear of drowning.
I dislike people who are “too nice and sugary” because I find it to be very false.
I’m laid back and rarely “seek” to be the center of attention.
I am confidant without arrogance.
It is hard for me to accept compliments or gifts.
I have a shy side in large groups of people.
I really hate crowds, I will deal with it but get impatient.
I swear like a drunken sailor and love to find new ways to curse.
I am gentle and very sweet.
I have a well rounded education and am well traveled.
I was once told that I have a very high degree of ethics and character.
I flirt with everyone, even women or grandmothers.
I keep my friends for years and years.
I love phone sex and love what I do!
Ok I hope this cracks you up as much as it does me. First of all I am a fan of parody, and I am from the pop culture generation. So if you are a pervert and happen to have these things in common with me, then you’ll truly appreciate the humor.
The Brady Bunch goes XXX rated. I kid you not. You can even see the trailer here:
I LOVE the song. OMG I was laughing my ass off!
Here is the movie’s description: Facing financial woes, Mike & Carol put the family on a budget. The kids take odd jobs to help save their house from bank foreclosure, but when Marcia unwittingly applies for a job as a “figure” model, wild fun and sexual mayhem ensue when she discovers she’s about to star in a “porn movie”!
Now if you are as demented as me and need to see this… you can rent it online, or own it by clicking here –> Not the Bradys XXX
Yes I downloaded it to own… I am sick and twisted.
What happens on a phone sex call after you get off? Do you hang up? Does it feel all awkward? Does an operator or any girl typically know what to say to you after you’ve cum?
I encounter all types of callers with different reactions. I have some guys who have called me for years and still hang up on me the second they are finished lol. Maybe they don’t want to linger so they can get cleaned up. Maybe they are in a hurry. Maybe it is “dirtier” that way! Sort of like picking a chick up in a bar and fucking her senseless and then kicking her out the minute you’ve cum lol!
I have some callers who obviously feel some sense of shame after. They almost behave like they are embarrassed. I’m sure not, but they seem to be. I have some callers who are less than embarrassed but maybe just don’t know what to say after.
I even know many operators who seem to clam up or feel some of the mentioned ways. I’ve known of girls in this business that actually get pissed off because a guy just hangs up. I always felt like it’s your call, you can end it how you want so it’s never offended me as a person. But I do think also that there is an after phone sex protocol that is almost no different then having real sex.
It’s a very private, real, and personal thing to share your orgasm with me. The least I can do is try to make you laugh after to release the tension of all that blood flow returning to your brain again. I guess we can’t cuddle after but we can be sweet to each other, or chitchat about something normal for a few minutes. Also releases that tension of returning blood flow. Sometimes the nicest thing a guy says to me is simply “thank you”. I’m not a rocket scientist, I am not making a major contribution to the world… but the thank you is always really nice to hear
I’ve been asked by many callers what I think about during masturbation. I thought I’d talk a little about my desires and how I masturbate to them. Ok granted the whole subject could be a book in, and of itself LOL.
One thing I’ve learned from being a phone sex operator is that every fantasy is a bit different with a different person. Real sex is too of course. I don’t find that I have one single favorite phone fantasy… I think a lot depends upon the chemistry that you develop with one another. It all depends on how you “connect” to the other person, it’s that chemistry that makes real sex or phone sex really good. But fantasies are fun, and it’s a way you always get to use your imagination and creativity. It’s like being a sex artist!
To share a fantasy with another person we have to rely mainly upon how well we can verbalize them. It’s always been hard for me to describe my fantasies as a full blown story with a beginning, middle, and ending. I do have some like that, but the majority are not.
Speaking for myself, I know that when I masturbate totally alone that it’s usually incoherent images in my head. I can jump from one image to another with no immediate theme to it. Sometimes it’s a past partner I think of, or maybe some guy I saw at the mall. I tend to most often think of the sex act itself. It usually doesn’t have a “back story” to it.
Or often when I masturbate I focus on the physical parts, namely mine. I look at my pussy in a mirror for instance and try to imagine how it looks to someone else. So of course I want to watch while I finger it… even imagine the taste and scent to someone else too. As I touch myself, I might be thinking about how someone else would touch me the same way etc.
Masturbation is kind of a selfish thing, not in a bad way mind you. It’s cool that we have the capability to take care of things ourselves, to settle our own urges. It can also be cool sometimes to not worry about pleasing a partner too. You can just lie back, and go for it.
To me it’s also always been a cool thing to share a “masturbation” experience. I mean, let’s just admit it…. We aren’t sharing it with everyone we know. To talk openly about it is a bit taboo. I guess that’s why I run my own phone sex service one of the things that drew me to the business! But then again, I’m just a horny naughty thing too hehe.
There is a philosophy in the phone sex industry that “you get what you pay for”. You have heard that before no doubt when it refers to clothes, appliances and name brand products verses “generic store brands”.
The main difference in the phone sex industry is “name brands” do not really exist. Hell, I think Phone Flirts is one of the VERY few sites on the net that has a Trademark even which makes it a helluva lot closer to what a name brand is. Most sites use a generic name to describe their product so it really can’t be held against a main stream market and the definition of what a name brand is. So to say “you get what you pay for” doesn’t really apply either.
This all puts phone sex into a different category and therefore I never was sold on the “you get what you pay for” bandwagon. Let’s face it…. The bottom line is you want choices. Sometimes you may not mind paying a higher price and sometimes your budget is more limited. In the end for a guy that wants phone sex and enjoys a good fantasy – you ultimately just want choices and variety.
So let me give you some choices my dear horny fellows:
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Hello you horny boys! I’ve been working my behind off a lot lately! I’m actually expanding the service… growing things and adding lots of new operators. I will eventually have girls for everyone’s “taste”. Right now I am so busy hiring them and training… that it doesn’t leave much time for me. But that won’t last long hehe. If you’d like to check out the ones I have recently added… go to this link Phone Sex Girls
I hope everyone faired well with their taxes! I am an early bird and have mine always done by Feb 15th. My accountant loves me and told me I am the MOST organized client he has… he suggested I teach a course in it lol. I wonder if he was just flirting with me.
On to the dirty parts! One of my cute shy guys called me bright and early this morning. I do love the shy ones! We talk a little, tease a little, flirt a lot… and then we get comfortable. For those of you reading this who didn’t know… comfortable means NAKED. He is usually so shy it’s almost like he is afraid to say something dirty before I do. I guess I don’t mind, it just allows me to take the reins then and lead him into dark moist places…namely mine. I adore his sounds… so quiet yet breathy. It’s a huge turn on for me to hear how different men sound when they masturbate.
I’m a thinker, a studier. And everything I do in life is very deliberate. I don’t make impulsive decisions, I don’t make foolish choices because I mentally plan my actions out carefully weighing all the options. This includes sex too.
Sure impulsive animalist raw power banging is awesome. I love it like that sometimes. But I normally prefer something slow, intentional, long, drawn out, and going to the brink of no return without fully ending things. I like a sex session to take a while. I like phone sex where we communicate, and ease into each stroke with a building intensity. I am a pleasure seeker… in all ways.
My shy morning guy and me did it slow today. Sometimes we do not have to say much for a few minutes. His breathing works on me the same way mine must be working on him. The sounds of masturbation can seem so… well, dirty. It must be because no one is supposed to HEAR them. I dunno, I just know it’s exciting to me. Hearing soft little wimpers, heavy hard breaths, tiny little gasps…. gets my juices flowing. During my call today we let it build up with just our sounds, we speak and it releases a little, and then we go right back to the breathy build up. Nothing like a fresh morning orgasm to start the day off right!
It’s crazy isn’t it? Writing a diary entry can be relieving, it can make me organize my thoughts better…. And it can totally turn me on too.
I have one caller with a very simple fantasy… cumming on a girls face. He called me today as he does often. Usually we set up our themes, our scenarios, and then roleplay them. I am his bitchy girlfriend and I am sick to death of his jerkin’ off habits. He follows me all over the house when I try to do everyday things while he splats a wad on my face. Like maybe I am talking on the telephone to my girlfriend and he shocks me with a sperm “pie” in the face for example.
The thing that is great about “R” is that we can laugh, we crack jokes, we exaggerate the roleplay, and crack up together the whole time. It’s cool when you can click in that way with someone. I support fun phone sex lol. I support humor.
“R” is extremely easy to please which is always a nice quality… but sometimes I like to see just how easy he is. On today’s call we decided that my female friend from work would be coming over for a quick lunch meeting with me. Of course there is my fantasy boyfriend with the nasty masturbation habit rubbing one out while I complain he is too much of a pervert. “R” laughs and laughs. I tell him …. “quick get out of here and do that in the bathroom like a normal man before my very innocent friend shows up”. He protests, he selfishly flings cum on my face. I act appalled. We laugh again. The doorbell rings. Oh my goodness I am in a panic because my sweet friend from work will be shocked at how kinky my man is. I open the door to let her in………
“R” is laughing and laughing with his normal enthusiasm and slapping away at his cock with intensity. I hear it “whack whack whack” in the background. He says, “Lynn… tell me what your friend is wearing”………..
I decide to find out just HOW easy “R” is to please now. We’ve known each other for about 2 years, we click, we have fun. I say…… “she’s dressed like Grimace… the purple guy from McDonalds”. (Ok queer but I wanted to see his reaction)
After “R” quit laughing hysterically… never missing a stroke….. he said “Ok cool… can she remove the mask though so I can squirt her in the face”?
I said….. “of course she can silly”. And so she did.
I figured I had better get on the ball and post to my diary. It’s been a busy new year for me, but it’s all good!
I am busy making some plans with my best girlfriend. We’ve decided to say “fuck the men” for one weekend in April and just plan our own personal little get-a-way. She’s married so I guess her guy is on her nerves a little, mine really isn’t… but it’s still good to get out with your pals and party down once in a while. You have to refresh yourself sometimes and I like to do that often.
I’ve talked to a lot of new callers lately. One yesterday told me the site is the best he has ever seen. He also said he took some time to read my blog and appreciated that I was just down to earth. That’s cool… I like to think I am down to earth.
Another guy I talked to recently said he was EXTREMELY shy. I like that so I told him it was okay with me. The funny thing about shy callers is they usually warm up to me pretty quickly and easily. See… if you hadn’t noticed I am NOT shy lol…so I am not afraid to talk, or do most of the talking or leading. This guy warmed up quite nicely… he got comfortable or used to me and started to open up. The next thing you know and equal amount of dirty talking was flowing smoothly.
The moral of this story is this… sure you may be a little shy. In real life I can be occasionally too. (Though my friends may tell you different). Good phone sex works best if you just relax…. Ahhh big sigh. I take my time with shy guys… I won’t jump right in and sound like some phone sex commercial spewing forth moans and grunts. Nope, I am capable of a conversation and furthermore I WANT to interact a little bit with you. The best phone sex is always with someone you like… someone you feel comfortable with… hence the title of this post.
Girls are like phones. We love to be held, talked too but if you press the wrong button you’ll be disconnected!
I’ve had callers in the past tell me how girls at different services were so mean to them. I’ve had to be mean myself some times. Why? Well these things occur because of a lack of basic Phone Sex Etiquette. Ok so let’s review some of the principles and then you can’t say you were never told.
When you find a website, don’t just dial the number without looking around a bit. You know best if the price works in your personal budget. And let’s face it…. with a boner you aren’t thinking clearly about it once you have that hot sexy female voice on the phone. Give yourself a minute to absorb the info before you call a phone sex girl. It should be common sense to do this… but I’ve encountered lots of callers who just dial my number and never even look at a thing. You should want to know whom you are going to do business with.
Phone Sex Operators get a lot of crank calls daily. It’s a sad fact that there are a lot of idiots out there. Now we’ve got ways to deal with them but YOUR APPROACH as a real caller to us on the telephone makes all the difference. Let me give you a for instance. I answer my telephone like any other normal person by saying Hello. The guy says “hey baby” back. 99% of the time he is a crank caller. A normal real caller might say something like, “Hello I’d like to set up a call”. Or even ask a question perhaps. The bottom line is this… be careful with your approach to a direct dial phone sex operator such as myself because it can be difficult for us to know if you are serious or not. Be courteous and even act professionally because that’s how you’ll want us to treat your credit card! Trust me that the phone sex fun will start after you’ve set things up for your call.
Any billing questions should be asked right away before you start handing out your info. Don’t interrupt the billing process to ask what I am wearing. I’m not gonna tell you anyway until your call is set up. All those naughty little fun questions are totally appropriate once your info has all been verified etc. Then I am happy to answer. But you will get to that part much quicker if you ask all your questions then let me collect your info properly. All billing is a PROCESS and honestly it’s a short one so don’t make it longer with a lot of interruptions.
If you have a unique fetish and you are concerned that a phone sex operator may not want to do it… go ahead and ask her before the billing procedure begins. Just try to be respectful of our time too and keep it to 10 words or less. We need to keep our lines open, to do other things, and we just do not have the time to listen to a 5 min explanation on our free time. But we never mind the fact that you respect our feelings and interests enough to ask, just try to keep it polite and brief.
Phone sex operators are all real live girls. If you call a larger service that has a dispatcher….. she’s real too. That means that rudeness of any kind won’t be tolerated. I’ve known lots of women over the years in this business whether it be owners or operators… and the one rule of thumb in EVERY phone sex company (small or large) is if someone is behaving like an asshole then just hang up on them. We’re human beings and we should be treated as such. And oh can I tell you some stories about rudeness that you would not believe lol.
Use manners with a phone sex service or operator because it doesn’t take away for having a good time at all. The opposite is true if you use manners we’ll tend to LIKE you far more, and that always makes the phone sex even better.
Use your basic morals during your call. I know right….. that sounds fucked up to request morals during phone sex. But let me explain what I mean. If you tell me your fantasy and its something that I do not do or know HOW to do… I always give you the option to call one of my friends that DO know or like it. If you prefer to continue to talk to me then thats cool, but please do not try to force that same fantasy upon me. Honestly…. it will turn me off instead of on. You wouldn’t push anyone to do something they told you they don’t want in real life, probably luckily because you have basic morals.
Use your brain if you ask me to do something for real. Yep you heard me. I’ve had callers ask me to take a bath, to use my toys (a personal favorite), to spank my own ass, to pinch my nipples etc. I’m into that for sure. But once I was asked to slam my head in the door… yep you heard me again. A caller literally asked me to slam my head in the door for him. My response was “uh no”. When he asked why I told him it was literally the most retarded request I had ever heard… it was the truth and I am an honest girl! A phone sex operator is going to do almost anything naughty, but not something stupid or harmful to herself.
Don’t abuse a business telephone number with repeated calls every 30 seconds, those calls cost the business money. Call and if you can’t get through then wait a few minutes to call back. Listen to voicemails when using a direct dial service because usually they are there for a purpose. Calling every 30 seconds isn’t going to make an operator get off the phone any faster.
Try to communicate clearly. A phone sex operator is not a mind reader, we’ll know best what you like if you tell us. Sure, none of us are afraid to take the lead but if you can’t express yourself at all then we won’t know what you want. Shy is one thing, but dead silent is another.
To summarize; your phone sex etiquette is going to cause a reaction of some sort from the operator. Make sure it’s a positive one!
I get callers from every walk of life and no two are alike. That’s great for me, because it means callers never get boring, and I find that I am always learning something new also.
I started to notice a trend. I’m blond and these things can take awhile sometimes to sink in. Over the years I have gathered up quite a few blind callers. Now I’d say I have about 18 guys that call me weekly to monthly to are legally blind. Today a new guy called me and hopefully since he was so cool I’ll be able to consider him number 19.
I’ll name this caller “J” for the purpose of this post. So “J” being a bit jaded from calling your less than personal style phone sex services said to me “Lynnea I’m blind and have been blind all my life. I hope it doesn’t scare you”. Apparently he has had past problems with operators.
I chuckled. I giggled. Then I told him about my other phone flirts groupies. He was stunned but not shocked he said. “J” said that what attracted him to call me was the text on my website. His reader program had a lot to do and he said he enjoyed the full display of my personality from the serious to the goofy side, from the professional to the witty side etc etc. I could on just to compliment myself as good as he did – but you get the point.
I liked that. The one thing I always wanted to get across is that I am a real girl which means there are many facets to my personality. I’m not constantly in the middle of doing sexy things. I’m not walking around the house in lingerie and high heels. Now, could you catch me fresh from the shower? SURE you could. But you may also catch me doing my yoga routine which is much less sexy… unless you can appreciate my flexibility
I am proud to say that I have many blind callers and they are devoted to me, which is a really cool thing. It can be a challenge, but I often end up describing the other senses more so in a fantasy with them… and they appreciate that. I am also proud to say that I’ve been able to turn them on with just simple words on a website too. So here is to you “J” … a great big sloppy wet kiss and anywhere that you want it.
Phone sex is an impulsive purchase in my opinion. It’s not something you plan out before you call. It’s usually not a purchase you make after months of deep thought. But I do want callers to sometimes stop and think a bit before they jump too.
I know my naughty callers occasionally try out other phone sex services. They always find their way back to Phone Flirts eventually, but there are so many options out there now — who wouldn’t shop around? There are many many services on the net — most are great businesses — and some are not. The phone sex industry really has no one regulating it that keeps us from “lying” or “falsely” advertising. So how can you be sure? Any special things you should do to be a smart phone sex shopper? Of course there are!
1. If you go to a site and write a phone number down — make sure you jot down the billing company name as well as the url. If a billing issue occurs you want to know exactly where you got that number from! Always contact the company immediately as most will fix mistakes quite easily. But you need to know where you got that number from to avoid a problem.
2. Look over the whole site carefully and make sure ALL your questions are either answered on it — or that they offer contact info for the owner. Do not just rely on the phone sex operator for answers. Operators can come along and disappear quickly — it’s always best that you know how to contact the actual owner in case of a problem. That’s not to say that there aren’t really good operators either…. It just means that you need to make sure you have all options available to you!
3. Pay close attention to the time you spend on the phone. It’s pretty easy to let your time over without even realizing it! Especially with your dick in your hand. Ask the operator at the end of the call what amount you have spent … especially if you pay per minute. Those minutes can stack up quickly, and you do not want a shock when you get your bill! Just remember that most billing occurs AFTER your call… just because you request 10 minutes of time doesn’t mean that is all that is used. It’s your responsibility as the customer to watch what you spend (after all it is your money)… but a good phone sex operator will be honest and keep you informed too.
4. Never forget that you are paying for the operators TIME… not just the dirty talk. This means if you talk about sex for 10 minutes and then the weather for 5 minutes that you may be charged for it. Don’t assume the operator’s time is ever free unless she tells you it is.
5. With the explosion of phone sex sites out there — try to stick with one that appears professional in what they SAY - and has been around awhile. New sites mean new owners/operators … that means the company MAY lack experience which may mean more errors. This is not a golden rule, but often the case.
6. Get a feel for the entire website. A good reliable business puts a great deal of effort into its website. It has good spelling, a decent design, is easy to navigate, has content and so forth. A cookie cutter type of site may indicate a lady or business is looking for “fast money”. There is no such thing as fast money — and a good business knows it! Hopefully you know that might be a risk to give your personally identifiable information to a person who is out to make fast bucks.
7. Find out HOW your info is stored! This is IMPORTANT. Is it inside a database and if so — is that database online somewhere? How many people SEE your info before it is billed? Is it shared among all the operators, even those you have never spoken to? Is your personally identifiable info EMAILED to anyone? Does the company employ safety precautions such as password protected databases, firewalls, and virus protection? Remember that if your info is on an operators computer — without protection, and her PC is hacked … your info is available for use from someone else. The “company” itself may be quite secure but the operator MAY not be. Question it!
8. Here is a good one. Ask yourself when reviewing a site — “what is the code of ethics here”. Look for some moral code, mission type statements, and simple business ethics. Look for a morality on the site in the way they do business. Having a dirty call is great… but the business side is important too. While it may not be overly obvious or stated in the way I mentioned it — there is usually a FEEL of it.
9. How open is the site? How inviting is the business? How much do you SEE about them? Hey, you are giving out your personal information — make sure they give YOU theirs too! You should know HOW they do business without having to ask. That also means that YOU as the customer needs to stop and read the each site carefully. Calling and asking an operator how they do things is important too but it should be done to verify what the site said.
10. While I understand the need and desire for online payment services in the phone sex industry … I’d like you to think them over before using them. 3rd party payment systems are often used and pay close attention… its means a 3rd party has your info. The danger with these online payment systems is that any lady can make a webpage and use an online payment service. It may NOT be a REAL registered business and that means they can be shut down easily. The likelihood of unethical practices are increased … meaning your info may not be safe etc etc. A genuine merchant account means a company has been clearly investigated by a bank. It means they must follow rules and they have a business plan etc.
11. Beware of operators who ASK for a tip or a gift. A tip or a gift should be completely optional as well as YOUR choice, and think of it like a restaurant or a hair salon– never going above 15-20% of what you have spent. Just use common sense. Whatever your fantasy may be — you are ultimately paying for the service already, if you are asked for more money or to buy gifts by the operator it really is an additional PAYMENT. A good business offers quality service with no hidden agenda or fees…. And if the operator is ASKING for more, or even implying you should pay more… then you have to ask yourself what YOU get for it. If you are the type of guy that WANTS to do it because you are generous – then great, go for it…. Just make sure it is your choice. I’ve received all sorts of gifts during my time in the industry from lingerie to DVDs, CDs, Books, and yes lots of monetary “tips”. But I always let the person decide if they want to, I don’t ask for it or hint at it. Maybe it’s just my personal opinion on the topic… but I never allow greed to interfere with my morals. If I was a waitress I wouldn’t ask either lol.
In summary, I have heard all sorts of horror stories about phone sex services, one girl services, and etc. Being on this side of the industry I’ve seen bad behavior take place often from operators and even owners. I could tell you all stories I’ve even witnessed and it would make you cringe! You as the customer also have to make sure you keep yourself in check too by being a smart phone sex shopper! Be cautious who you do business with, and always spend your money wisely.
I spoke to a caller this week that told me his credit card information was compromised. I have personally used multiple credit cards online for years and have never had my info compromised, but I am also pretty cautious. I’m very internet savvy so I gave him a few tips, and thought I may as well post them here too.
Firstly, your credit card information can leak out from ANY purchase you make. That means even at the local shopping mall. Ask retailers to tear up carbon copies of your charge slips…. often they are tossed into the trash and a good criminal knows that.
A huge portion of credit card fraud or theft takes place due to using your card for online purchases. So, secondly, make sure that any services you use, or places that you make a purchase are places that can be trusted. Try to stick with companies that you have heard of, that advertise, or that you know are reputable. Review a website carefully, if it doesn’t seem professional for any reason then take pause before you hand over all your details. Trust your instincts.
Thirdly, keep track of your receipts and review your credit card statements every month at the very least. Jot down purchases you make when you do not have a receipt.
Lastly, if you are joining an adult membership website then read things closely. Pay attention to see if charges will reoccur each month etc. Also take note of contact info to the owner of the site. You may need it in the future should there be a problem.
And now my tips for guys that use their credit cards when calling a phone sex service such as mine.
READ over the website CAREFULLY do not skim. Look for billing explanations. Look for contact info. Look for a professional attitude. Ok we all know it’s the photos or the phone number you want the most when surfing a phone sex site…. but you should READ them too. You should know how things are done, and who you are doing business with.
When you call a new phone sex service… ask what information is needed from you and what it is used for. Then asked who else sees your info and how it is stored. If the operator has difficulty explaining the answers or the billing procedure, or sounds a bit ditzy about it, then please think twice. The bottom line is this, and pardons my bluntness….. If someone can’t explain those answers then it is unlikely they will be able to protect your information. Phone Sex is dirty, kinky, naughty, and fun; but there is a professional business side that also needs to be handled intelligently.
Find out HOW it appears on your billing statement. Make a clear mental note or write it down so you don’t stroke your wiener and forget it later.
Make sure your information is NOT emailed to anyone, including owners, partners or etc. Having inside knowledge of the phone sex industry… I know that many small services still do those things and there are better ways to handle it. Emailing any consumer info should be a total no-no to any decently run business.
If your info is stored in a database then find out if it an online one, or on a computer. Both can be a risk. For instance I store info for my callers in a database. I do not use Microsoft products for it, I encrypt it, I password protected it several times over, and it is not stored on a computer that is connected to the internet. I go very far to protect my callers information. Should my computer get hacked then so be it…. there is nothing on it worthy to get.
There are many good phone sex services out there, and 90% are truly honest and cautious with your billing information. But being safe for you, as a customer should be of high importance. Don’t ever take for granted that the people you give your info to will protect it as well as YOU would. Ask questions and be informed!
I remember once, oh about a year ago where on ONE page of phoneflirts.com I had a statement of Real Phone Sex Conversations or something to that extent. Some operator, a competitor basically was bothered by it and decided to write to me and explain that phone sex was a fantasy. I laughed.
For some reason the word REAL in phone sex pisses people off. You know – it’s a FANTASY its not real blah blah blah… that’s what they say. As if I am a moron uh huh. And I agree yes – to a certain extent. Phone sex is kind of like a great adventure… an exploration where you can make it be anything you want. Yet phone sex with me is real on some levels too. Shall I explain it?
It’s me Lynnea – the girl you talked to last year, or last week, or yesterday. Nobody else is pretending to be me. It’s really Lynnea each and every time you call.
I suck at acting so I prefer to be real…… as in realistic. I don’t make up stories of gang bangs,…. unless I’ve done it or fantasized about it. I am myself and I don’t claim to have blown 45 guys in a bathroom stall if I haven’t. Can I do a fantasy like that – hell yeah. But I won’t try to convince you of things that I am not. Instead I’ll be real. I will just be my little ole normal self without putting on a flamboyant show.
I’m not a “poor” little girl that is desperate for money, calls, or going to ask for presents/tips either. I make pretty damn good money doing phone sex baby. Yes, even with my cheap rates too. I’m real about it…. I won’t play helpless because I’m just not helpless. Besides I happen to find self sufficient intelligent PEOPLE that know how to take care of themselves to be far sexier and to be more real.
I talk to my callers in a real way. I use common sense, understanding, my personality, and a sense of fun in all my conversations. In other words I talk to my callers the same way I might talk to any guy in a bar that I would be flirting with for real.
I have a real life too. I do laundry, I go on vacations, sometimes I may get the flu, and yes I eat dinner too. I lead my real life on weekends for instance and that’s why I take them off away from the phone. I’m not afraid or ashamed to say those things to callers. It’s my real life stuff – I happen to be more than just a phone operator. Do you get what I mean?
I’m reliable in a real way. I don’t change my schedule 50 times without notice to my callers. I don’t vanish for days or weeks on end. I don’t often take off during the hours I work. Nope, I commit to the hours you can reach me – I get real about it… and do my personal stuff on my own time. After all baby I am running a real business here so I need to be really committed to it.
I’m real too because I know what I am good at and what I’m not. Here is a for instance – I suck at doing a harsh dominant fantasy. I just am not mean enough perhaps or I’m not comfortable behaving in a way that doesn’t feel like me. I don’t find myself to feel sexy in that role. I don’t advertise or promote myself in any way that resembles that role either because I know it’s not my thang. I often reject those calls sending them to someone that I know can fulfill their interests if they are not my cup of tea – why would I
