Telephone Sex Counseling
I have a long time caller that is in residency as a psychiatrist. I’ve known him forever it seems like, and we talk about a lot of things aside from “phone sex”. We end up going a few hours on the phone because we both enjoy good conversation in general too. So you get the point… I like him and we talk as much casually about other topics as much as we talk dirty.
Basically we get into these intellectual conversations about the psychology of phone sex and he is often amazed at my own personal mental stability haha. I always explain that I became a phone sex operator due to choice… not a “need”. I’ve continued to do it because I like it, the masturbation (like who wouldn’t duh), but also I truly enjoy the banter with individual callers too.
So Dr. Whackit, as I will call him with affection, and I were speaking about some of the traits it takes to be a phone sex operator. Then we began to compare it to what he does for a living too and I dunno, it was interesting to me. So I thought I’d share a little of what was said, my point of view, his point of view, and sort of mix it up like a dirty cocktail.
Oh, let me do my disclaimer too… there are lots of smart women in the phone sex industry that can do all of the following just as well, if not better than I. But let’s all face it too… some fall into it without knowledge, education, experience, or even talent etc etc etc. I guess the point is like any other work we have our good eggs and the bad ones. Though, often, the bad eggs are more misinformed than malicious. Ok, there said it.
To be a good phone sex operator, you have to know how to run a business and all the stuff that includes like: customer service, the laws, the boring paperwork etc. You can’t really be a dumb farm girl and totally succeed on your own if taxes, accountants, and the legalities intimidate you. You have to know the difference between profits, losses, demographics, price points, and return on investments. The good news to the boring shit…. is that callers prefer intelligent women who know how to do this. It makes them horny… if this business talk is making you horny right now… then call me.
To be a good phone sex operator you have to know what true communication is. I don’t mean spouting off a bunch of dirty words either. You have to understand the basic psychology of communication. A good communicator isn’t afraid to say no, and believes in what they say… as well as being able to literally verbalize it to someone else. A good communicator actually wants to hear the other side too. Plus let’s face it… sex…. when we are able to communicate about it – just gets better.
To be a good phone sex operator you have to know what your true motivations are, and why you are doing it. You have to understand your OWN psychological make up. If you don’t, then you may not really know who you are…. or have the confidence needed to succeed. Without confidence, all you really have is “good intentions” which are not enough. I try to keep my motives “positive” too… I think about things in a positive way, always a new idea, and always a solution to everything. I am also positive that my motivations are perverted. Did I say that?
To be a good phone sex operator you have to have creativity and that is something you either have or you don’t, it doesn’t go away and it doesn’t suddenly return. Creativity happens in many areas of our lives and having a vivid imagination is one a huge part of our sex lives too. So let’s get creative… Let’s find a new way to rub one out and then do it differently the next time too. Let’s be creative and shake things up whoohoo!
To be a good phone sex operator you have to be able to speak. Some girls get caught in the “oh baby hmmmm oh baby” stuff for 10 minutes and there is no substance. Being able to string a sentence together isn’t enough; you have to speak combined with the confidence, creativity, and by using the good communication skills as stated above. Kinda obvious. But also a voice is everything, as well as the use of language.
To be a good phone sex operator you must have the ability not to take things so personally. I am just myself on my calls, but I also separate my life some too. I do not LIVE everything I FANTASIZE about. My business is a part of my life, but it is not my whole life. I don’t have to take things “personally” this way.
To be a good phone sex operator you have to have patience. This is not a get rich quick type of business… it grows and grows over time so you have to water the horny plant daily. Each year my goal is to make more money than last year and I have never lost out once. Talk to my accountant – he actually brags about me to other clients lol. (or maybe he just wants to bang me)
So now let’s break it down: professionalism, communication, motivation, confidence, creativity, good speech patterns, not taking things down to a personal level and patience…. Dr Whackit told me these are all important things that he must do or qualities he must have as well to work as a Psychiatrist. You thought I went off the point of the story probably… but no, I had one. Phone Sex can be a little like counseling experience… of course the main objective is more about your penis rather than your childhood experiences… but both things probably need your attention anyway. You just simply seek out 2 different types of pros to handle them.
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