We have this fantastic specialty bakery near our condos and they serve the best coffee. Every morning I stop there bright and early for a hot cup. It’s best in the winter of course, because the whole place just warms you up with delicious smells of baked breads and sweet rolls. In the summer it’s extremely hot in there due to the ovens. I shudder what people go through in the hot afternoons.

Anyway since it can still be pretty humid in the summer to be stepping into a warm place like that, I must wear very little clothes. Today when I went in I had on cut off shorts which do run rather small and a little black tank top with spaghetti straps that reveal my bra straps. I might slip on a normal pair of tennis shoes and just grab my wallet and car keys. Usually business men and women are the ones grabbing a cup of java in the morning, so I sort of stand out in my “dressed down” clothes.

Today this extremely good looking business man was in front of me. I had never seen him in there before. He was well groomed and well dressed in his suit. Normally I am more attracted to a guy in jeans, a more rugged look; but this one was so attractive and even smelled great. He didn’t seem to pay much attention to me beyond a glance he gave me when I stepped in line. But I kept checking HIM out, I sort of shifted my positions several times to see him better lol. I think I may have been a little too obvious that I was ogling him.

When the cashier went to ring him up he said, “Please include the lovely lady’s order behind me also.” And so he paid for my coffee. I stood there until he got his change and thanked him. He said and I quote, “no thank YOU, it’s a pleasure to buy coffee for such a naturally gorgeous young lady.”

What a way to start my morning off right! A hot guy, a hot cup of coffee, and a fresh pair of panties soiled already! Turn me on with compliments and I can’t help it if I drip like a faucet. lol

When I talk to many of my sexy callers, we often end up in a discussion about the phone sex industry. Sometimes they tell me horror stories of experiences they have had calling for phone sex. Sometimes they tell me nice stuff too!

I had a very long call and a long conversation with a fairly new caller. I consider someone new that I’ve only spoke to for a few months. (once I know you very well then I call you OLD hehe). He told me that he was never going to call another service aside from Phone Flirts, and I probed him for the reasons. I am still certain he was exaggerating a bit… or maybe perhaps I am just too humble. But I felt like sharing some of the things I spoke about with him today because I think it gives anyone who reads our phone sex blog some things to think about. Mainly, of course, we want you thinking about US….. being bent over, laying naked on our backs, etc etc etc.

He said: Once day I called you and you told me you would love to do a call with me, but asked me to ring you back in 5 minutes so you could finish up her laundry. He said he LIKED that because it meant I was a REAL person and I wasn’t hiding behind some huge fantasy facade about it.

I said: Yes it is true. I do laundry. I go to the grocery store. On rare occasions I will even dust. I take showers, I blow dry my hair, I do errands, and cook dinner too. I am NORMAL… a real person and I do all the boring things that life requires. And no, I am not afraid to SHARE it with you. I will not bore you to death with my grocery list… of course not. But I also do not lie… I am truthful about my life, even the boring parts.

He said: You have good rates which keep me coming back, but mainly I like how you talk to me. You make phone sex fun.

I said: I am just MYSELF, and I like to laugh, I love to flirt, I enjoy sex, and mainly I LIKE MEN. I treat callers no differently than a guy I might meet at bar. Yes, this IS a business and certainly you are paying for my time… but I work hard to LIKE you, to get to know you, and to be interested in you.

He said: You always bill me accurately and properly. I never have to worry about it when the statement comes in.

I said: Well, newsflash here… I am HONEST. I have not been in business as long as I have by being a thief or a crook. I am cautious with YOUR money like it was my OWN money. I know and understand that a phone sex call is a treat, it a little masturbation entertainment that you give yourself once in awhile. And since it IS for entertainment value (for your cock) I also know that there is a limit to what you can or want to spend on it. Sure a 15 call with me is a little cheaper than buying a DVD, but you probably do not buy a new DVD every week, nor do you spend $1700.00 in a single month for a whole new collection. My services are reasonability priced, but I am also reasonably minded and have more than your average amount of common sense too.

Phone sex is a business, yes indeed, but there are ways to enjoy it with safety, honesty, and dare I say it integrity. Sprinkle in some truth and gosh darn it… you have got something to shake your cock at it! While we were winding down our conversation together the caller told me “you should put this all in your diary”. And so I shall.

Get this one.. wow phone sex can be rough! I have a long time caller whose called us for awhile but alas he also called another small one girl service too. (shocking isn’t it that you horny guys calls all around lolol) anyway I guess he liked the girl fine - until he got this massive bill. His funds are - shall we say are… more “limited” and I was always cautious not to let him run over with his time because I respect him and HIS money. However, in this crazy business you sometimes come across seriously sad women. This operator had charged 100’s of bucks to his account hopping he wouldn’t notice it! Well he DID notice and called her back about it. The excuse? She said to him, “well I needed the money” and she promised she would pay it back soon. Is that the scariest thing you heard all day or what? Makes you wonder how many other guys she did that to who didn’t notice it! I will let you know that the caller was not foolish enough to believe such bullshit, thank goodness for him.

I find it amusing - while I grant you that yes we do work in the adult industry - it really can be done honestly and with ethics. While hopefully our phone sex call will be naughty and everything you want it to be - it should also be professional. Basically it means this IS still a business and should be run as such with all the legalities, moralities, and professionalism in tact.

I find women who cross the ethics line in this business to be not so “healthy minded” and that’s a sad thing. Our jobs are wicked cool - we get to meet guys we wouldn’t normally be able to meet, we get to flirt and talk about sex all damn day - and in our case we work directly from home. Our work has a ton of perks for sure… but I don’t think “stealing” is one of them! Crikey! The whole internet boom has created an atmosphere where con artists and predators can set up and close up “shop” pretty fast. The multitudes of websites that exist make it pretty hard for the typical “horny surfer” to find the honest business. And by the way… there are many good honest ethical phone sex owners/operators/services - but man oh man there are still shit loads of scum buckets too. It exists in all industries on the net as well - it’s not just limited to the adult industry.

If you ever saw the movie Punch Drunk Love then you might get an idea of what I am talking about. I recently watched it on HBO or something and the main character calls a phone sex service one night. To his surprise the next day the operator calls him at home asking him for money! I had the conversation with my caller after I saw the movie about his little rip off incident. Boy these things DO happen for real - and it’s so shocking to me. Perhaps I am naive - no, I take that back I KNOW I am naive…

It just would never occur to me to “scam” my callers - I like them too much. It wouldn’t occur to me to steal a pack of gum at the grocery store though either. I was taught better than that shit, and I live my life better than that too. But then again I’ve never been here for the money alone either… I do this because I like it, because I like men, and I love sex in all forms. I suppose if I were unemployable, desperate Ricki Lake/Jerry Springer freak, or a con artist I could understand that mentality better. But alas, I can’t. I will never understand that type of greed and thank goodness too…. because I don’t want to.

My point in writing this isn’t to sound like a whiner or like I know everything - nah I don’t. I’m not preaching my way either - that would be pretty boring. But I do think the whole internet has changed so much that it almost seems now there is more “junk” available than quality in most of the sites we all surf. I also worry about people who are new to the net and can so easily fall victim to “scams”. As a phone sex caller reading this I hope it makes you a bit wary of not handing out your credit card details to every site you see too. You should investigate the service a bit to make sure it’s not a fly by night type of company. You should ask questions, you should be told the billing name, and you should know WHO you are giving your info to. You should know the charges up front before you call, you should watch what you spend and make sure it matches to your CC statements.

Phone sex is a great experience, its fun, fairly priced, and most services will do right by you. Most services actually do follow the law. But there is always one small group of scammers out there and buying anything online always comes with a certain level of risk. Be careful in phone sex land. The business can and does attract many types of personalities…. sadly some are not so honest.